Ο λόγος που πολλοί ευαίσθητοι νοιώθουν ότι βρίσκονται σε μπελάδες δεν είναι διότι η ευαισθησία είναι αρρώστια αλλά διότι δεν ξέρουν τι να κάνουν με αυτή. Όλα αυτά που έμαθαν, ειδικά όταν ήταν παιδιά, δεν υποστηρίζουν την ενέργεια και τη δύναμη ενός εξαιρετικά ευαίσθητου, εξαιρετικά καλοκουρδισμένου ατόμου.

Όταν μιλάω για ευαίσθητους, όπως έχω ξαναπεί, δεν εννοώ τους υπερευαίσθητους που βλέπουν συνεχώς προβλήματα και νομίζουν ότι είναι θύματα και ακόμα αν κάποιοι απ’ αυτούς είναι ευαίσθητα άτομα, ο λόγος που βρίσκονται σε μπελάδες είναι διότι ακολουθούν ένα λιγότερο δημιουργικό δρόμο.

Η αίσθηση σκοπού λοιπόν είναι ένα από τα κυριότερα χαρακτηριστικά ενός ευαίσθητου.

Σαν ευαίσθητο άτομο έχεις μία πολύ ανεπτυγμένη αίσθηση για τον σκοπό της ζωής και την είχες ακόμα και κατά τη παιδική ηλικία. Τώρα μπορείς να παρατηρήσεις αυτά τα παιδιά* που προσπαθούν να βοηθήσουν, να δημιουργήσουν, που γνωρίζουν πράγματα τα οποία δεν έχουν βιώσει, άλλα με μία αποδοχή για τους γύρω τους γεμάτη αγάπη και άλλα με μία ηθική προσέγγιση. Αλλά το πιο σημαντικό, δεν είναι αδιάφορα ή απαθή.
Μπορείς να το θυμηθείς αυτό από όταν ήσουν παιδί;

Όπως μεγαλώνεις αναγκάζεσαι να πετάξεις κάποια από αυτά τα χαρακτηριστικά διότι οι γύρω σου δεν τα δέχονται και πρέπει να επιβιώσεις, πρέπει να χωρέσεις στο σύνολο.
Αλλά μπορείς να πετάξεις αυτές τις υπέροχες ιδέες χωρίς να πληρώσεις ένα μεγάλο κόστος;

Το αποτέλεσμα είναι ότι καθώς μεγαλώνεις γίνεσαι υπερευαίσθητος/η, αισθάνεσαι σαν θύμα και πολύ πιθανόν να πάσχεις από κατάθλιψη ή/και εθισμούς.

Και ακόμα μία από τις χειρότερες παρενέργειες είναι το αίσθημα ότι δεν υπάρχει διέξοδος και ότι δεν σου αξίζει τίποτα παραπάνω, κάτι που κάνει τα πράγματα ακόμα πιο δύσκολα. Στη συνέχεια θα στερήσεις αυτό το δικαίωμα και από τους γύρω σου ή τα παιδιά σου.

Όμως υπάρχει λύση και είναι απλή!
Χρειάζεσαι να θυμηθείς, να νομιμοποιήσεις και να ξανασυνδεθείς με την αυθεντική σου αίσθηση σκοπού, η οποία βρισκόταν εκεί για κάποιο λόγο. Πρέπει να ξαναζήσεις αυτό το κομμάτι της παιδική σου ηλικίας, μέσα στον νου σου, και να το αφήσεις να μεγαλώσει φυσιολογικά, ακόμα και τώρα.

Βοηθάει πολύ αν αποφύγεις, τουλάχιστον για λίγο, τους ανθρώπους που έχουν αρνητική επιρροή ακόμα και αν βρίσκονται πολύ κοντά σου.

Και το πιο σημαντικό, ζήτα βοήθεια!

Με αγάπη

Αντώνης

*Μερικά από αυτά ονομάστηκαν “indigo”, “crystal”, ή παλιότερα “violet”

Dear Friends

many people are confusing the terms “sensitivity” and “emotional hypersensitivity”. They think that being under the permanent influence of emotions means they are sensitive.

In reality the term “Highly Sensitive Person” or HSP means a person with highly tuned nervous system, all the senses work more intensively and with higher precision. And this is not all, sensitive persons have a greater feeling of the emotions around them, empathy and holistic sense of the world.

Sensitive persons have an intensive desire for peace and tranquility, but the way our world functions can lead them to the opposite, hatred and destruction.

The people who are constantly under the influence of emotions are, in fact, addicted to these emotions. Either they are sensitive people or not, they need help as everyone who is addicted to a substance. And if the sensitive persons manage to escape from this addiction will be able to discover what a wonderful gift their sensitivity is.

So if up to now your sensitivity was nothing but trouble, maybe it’s time to give it space to develop instead of fighting it as an enemy. And if up to now your sensitivity was never accepted by other people around you, this doesn’t mean that you have to reject it yourself. To reject your nature is like rejecting the air that you breathe.

Sensitivity never tries to make you be what you are not, this is what the world around you does, your belief systems, prejudices and many traditions. Your sensitivity always reminds you who you really are, telling you always the truth. Maybe it’s time to learn how to listen to it.

Love

Antonis

Αγαπητοί φίλοι,

Πολλοί συγχέουν την έννοια της ευαισθησίας με την συναισθηματική υπερευαισθησία. Νομίζουν ότι το ότι βρίσκονται μόνιμα κάτω από την επήρεια συναισθημάτων δηλώνει ευαισθησία.

This is something only highly sensitive people will understand and not all of them.
Inner fire is the main ingredient of an HSP, the passion for life; the meaning of life itself is this fire.
The reason that not all of the sensitive people will understand this is because many HSPs learned to protect themselves and play roles in order to survive. This is not conscious; it’s happening automatically and depends on the childhood experiences. Yes these again!

While for “normal” people life is simple; planning, acting, reacting, avoiding, a series of things based on Newtonian laws about cause and effect, everything has an explanation and it is always the simplest and most obvious one, for sensitive people the Newtonian laws are not that valid. There is not always a reason for doing something, and if there is it cannot be explained. Intuition, inspiration, seeking for joy, getting excited for what is different and more interesting, going for the real thing and not for the obvious these are the motivations.
This is the flame and it’s really burning.

Now what happens is that many sensitive people get involved with the “normal” ones, either in business or in life.
A business partner who looks at things the mechanistic way will never understand your fire. Will never understand how is it possible to have the intuition as motivation. Will never support your irrational way of thinking and your crazy ideas.
You from your side will never understand how is it possible people to see life in such a boring and meaningless way.

Same thing happens in a life relationship. Friends or lovers, even more, life partners, will have the best excuses to make you feel stupid for your choices, for your needs, for your ideas. Unfortunately it’s quite common.
You have a fire that leads to the ultimate joy if it’s honored and to the ultimate pain if it’s ignored or rejected. Doesn’t need to be explained and proved.

Many sensitives think that they are not ok and they have to change themselves in order to fit, but this is not the point. You don’t have to put out the fire just because they can’t take it.

My advice, be yourself, honor your flame. And if you see that people around you don’t honor it, don’t even accept it no matter how hard you try, find other people. It’s that simple.

Love

Antonis

This is a scene from Good Will Hunting where Robin Williams as therapist helps Will to wake up from his defences and his excuses for avoiding life.

I can imagine for you, sensitive person this can also be an awakening.
In many cases the abuse that you experienced as child can lead you to close yourself to a bubble and try to be safe. The result is avoiding living.
And abuse is not only beating and torturing, although it looks like it’s the most terrible; verbal abuse, being ignored, even being forced to play small so they can feel comfortable are also very serious cases.

It’s not your fault that you are sensitive. Actualy it’s nobody’s fault, if you manage to be in alignement with this, you will discover that it’a a gift and not a problem.
It’s not your fault that you are not accepted as you are. Turn this around by accepting yourself first.
It’s not your fault that people forced you to abandon your dreams. Your dreams are ok, reactivate them.
It’s not your fault that you had to play small in order to fit. You were young and needed to fit to your narrow environment. Now you can find the environment that is right for you, where you don’t have to play small if you are big.
It’s not your fault if you were abused by an older brother or sister, you developed skills and abilities for survival. What you have to do now is to not repeat it to others, since you hated it yourself, and to enjoy the gifts that you gained from this.
It’s not your fault that you didn’t become successful although you realy wanted to. You had other peoples’ beliefs and principals that didn’t fit to you. Change it and become successful now. It’s not too late.
It’s not your fault that you are not yourself. Be yourself, you have this right.

You have two options, to change all these things that are not your fault, or to hate everyone who caused them to you. If you chose the first you will feel good and you will change your life. If you chose the second you will fail, and this time it will be your fault.

Love

Antonis

Sometime, either we are sensitives or not, we discover that we had different dreams about our life, completely different from the life we live now, abilities we never used, wisdom we had to suppress, values we forced to reject, a wonderful life we never lived up to now.

Αγαπητοί φίλοι καλή χρονιά,

πολλοί ίσως αναρωτιούνται “τα κεφάλια μέσα δεν σημαίνει ότι σοβαρευτήκαμε;”
Θα απαντήσω ξεκάθαρα όχι, και θα το εξηγήσω παρακάτω.

Αυτό που συμβαίνει αυτή τη στιγμή είναι το σύνδρομο των διακοπών, πολλές σοβαρές προσπάθειες που ξεκίνησαν πριν τις διακοπές, φυσικά διακόπηκαν, και τώρα είτε οι διακοπές συνεχίζονται μέσα μας, αποφεύγοντας κάθε ανάληψη ευθύνης, είτε επιστρέφουμε στην επιβίωση και τον βιοπορισμό, ξεθάβοντας την ενοχή και θάβοντας βαθιά κάθε σκέψη που έχει να κάνει με την επιθυμία και τον πόθο μας για κάτι αληθινό, για να ανακαλύψουμε την δική μας ζωή.

Η φράση “τέρμα το διάλειμμα, τα κεφάλια μέσα” δεν δίνει πραγματικές επιλογές, είναι οι δύο όψεις του ίδιου νομίσματος, που κατά τη γνώμη μου σημαίνει υπνοβασία. Δηλαδή όταν είσαι σε διάλειμμα περιμένεις να τελειώσει (βλέπε διακοπές) και όταν είσαι με το κεφάλι μέσα περιμένεις το επόμενο διάλειμμα κοκ.

Ο καθένας από μας, ειδικά αν είμαστε ευαίσθητα άτομα, έχει προορισμούς, έχει σκοπούς ζωής, και αυτοί είναι δραστηριότητες ή καταστάσεις που μας φέρνουν πιο κοντά στην ευτυχία και την εσωτερική ικανοποίηση. Είτε ο βιοπορισμός είτε το διάλειμμα μας απομακρύνουν απ’αυτό και μας οδηγούν στη συνέχεια της υπνοβασίας.

Επίσης η κατάσταση που επικρατεί στον κόσμο έχει το ίδιο αποτέλεσμα. Είτε είναι οικονομική κρίση, είτε φόβος πολέμου και τρομοκρατίας, είτε οποιοδήποτε άλλο κόλπο που μας εθίζει στον φόβο και τον πόνο, έχει σαν σκοπό την διαιώνισή του, διότι σαν υπνοβάτες απλά αναπαράγουμε τον φόβο και τον εθισμό αυτόν στους γύρω μας.
Με δυο λόγια, η ζωή είναι σκ… και μετά πεθαίνεις…

Η επιλογή είναι δική μας, μπορούμε να συνεχίζουμε την υπνοβασία ή να ξυπνήσουμε και να κάνουμε αυτό που θέλουμε.

Αληθινές διακοπές αδιάκοπες λοιπόν δεν σημαίνει αποφυγή ζωής, αλλά το να ζεις, να δρας, να εργάζεσαι, αλλά να κάνεις αυτό που αληθινά θέλεις και να έχεις καθαρό νου και εσωτερική ειρήνη. Είτε δουλεύεις πάνω σε αυτό που αγαπάς, είτε ξαπλώνεις σε μία αμμουδιά της Καραϊβικής, μέσα σου είσαι ευτυχισμένος/η διότι βρίσκεσαι εκεί που θέλεις, όχι εξωτερικά αλλά εσωτερικά.

Τέρμα το διάλειμμα λοιπόν, τέρμα και τα κεφάλια μέσα, ελάτε να ανακαλύψουμε την αληθινή μας ζωή.
Επικοινωνήστε για να δούμε τον τρόπο!

Με αγάπη

Αντώνης

I want to talk about the people who know everything, who have all the answers ready from their childhood who judge and condemn without a second thought.
For the highly sensitive people they can become a serious problem, especially in small age when the sensitives are still exploring the world, everything is open and possible and they create the opportunity to see life from many different points of view.
The reason I’m talking about the “intelligence of the lizard” is because, as we all know, lizards like all primitive animals are born ready to live, knowing everything they need to know about life. They can move in the world from the moment they come out of the egg.
On human level the ones who know everything, don’t just “know” how to live themselves, but they decide, judge and reject everyone who is seeking for answers.
If a sensitive child has this kind of persons around, people who developed an ironic and sarcastic attitude according to their “ready made absolute knowledge”, is going to be in trouble having a low self-esteem. And if these persons are members of this child’s closed circle then life will be really hard.

During my teen years when I didn’t have any answer ready and everything was open, I was admiring the ones who had everything easy. I thought then that arrogance and irony was just a natural thing since they knew everything (right the opposite from me). I thought that they were privileged, smart, cool and always the soul of the parties.
Now I see that things are different. Most of them today are just survivers. The rebels settled, the smart ones became victims, the cool developed phobias, and their relationships are bad or non existing.

If you have suffered in the past because of your sensitivity and nobody gave you the right to see the answers in life forcing you to accept the lizard’s instinct that we all carry inside us, maybe now it’s time to give this right to yourself.

I assure you that:

• It’s absolutely alright to have questions and to want to answer them through your experience,
  
• You can grow slowly and until you grow you have the right to be immature in many fields,
  
• You can ignore anyone who thinks that you’re small just because his lizard mind gave him the answers and not his experience and his wisdom,
  
• Everyone who has offered something valuable to this world (or any other world) is sensitive. These people never had ready answers but they found them by being open to life. And if their answers have given a lot of value, the right to be open and seek for them has offered much more.

Love

Antonis

Θέλω να μιλήσω για αυτούς που τα ξέρουν όλα, που έχουν όλες τις απαντήσεις από την παιδική τους ηλικία και που δικάζουν και καταδικάζουν χωρίς δεύτερη σκέψη.
Για τα άτομα με ιδιαίτερη ευαισθησία είναι σοβαρό πρόβλημα ειδικά σε μικρές ηλικίες όπου εξερευνούν τον κόσμο, θεωρούν τα πάντα ανοιχτά και πιθανά και έχουν την ευκαιρία να δουν τη ζωή από πολλές διαφορετικές γωνίες.
Ο λόγος που αναφέρομαι στην ευφυΐα της σαύρας είναι διότι, όπως είναι γνωστό οι σαύρες και όλα τα πρωτόγονα ζώα γεννιούνται έτοιμα γνωρίζοντας ότι χρειάζεται να γνωρίζουν για τη ζωή. Από την πρώτη στιγμή μπορούν να κινηθούν στον κόσμο.
Στο ανθρώπινο επίπεδο αυτοί που τα ξέρουν όλα, όχι απλά “ξέρουν” να ζουν αλλά καταδικάζουν και απορρίπτουν αυτούς που ψάχνουν για απαντήσεις.
Ένα ευαίσθητο παιδί αν έχει γύρω του άτομα που με την ετοιματζίδικη “απόλυτη γνώση” έχουν αναπτύξει μία ειρωνεία και ένα σαρκασμό, είναι καταδικασμένο να έχει χαμηλή αυτοπεποίθηση όπως μεγαλώνει. Και αν αυτά τα άτομα βρίσκονται μέσα στο οικογενειακό του περιβάλλον είναι πιθανόν να περάσει πολύ δύσκολη ζωή.

Η δική μου εμπειρία, κυρίως κατά την διάρκεια της εφηβείας μου όπου δεν είχα απαντήσεις σε τίποτα και όλα ήταν ανοιχτά, ήταν ένας θαυμασμός και μία ζήλια προς όλους αυτού που τα είχαν εύκολα. Εκείνη την εποχή νόμιζα ότι η αλαζονεία και η ειρωνεία τους προερχόταν από το ότι ήξεραν τι έκαναν (σε αντίθεση με μένα). Τους θεωρούσα προνομιούχους, πανέξυπνους, cool, την ψυχή της παρέας κλπ.
Ο χρόνος μου έδειξε διαφορετικά πράγματα. Οι περισσότερο από αυτούς τους τέλειους ανθρώπους απλά επιβιώνουν. Οι ασυμβίβαστοι έχουν συμβιβαστεί, οι πανέξυπνοι έχουν γίνει θύματα των περιστάσεων, οι cool έχουν αποκτήσει φοβίες, οι σχέσεις τους είναι από κακές έως ανύπαρκτες.

Αν λοιπόν λόγω της ευαισθησίας σας έχετε υποφέρει στο παρελθόν διότι κανείς δεν σας έδωσε το δικαίωμα να αναζητήσετε τις απαντήσεις μέσα απ τη ζωή και όχι από το ένστικτο της σαύρας (ή ακόμα χειρότερα της μέδουσας) που όλοι κουβαλάμε μέσα μας, ίσως ήρθε η ώρα να αποκτήσετε αυτό το δικαίωμα τώρα.
Σας διαβεβαιώ λοιπόν ότι:

-Είναι απολύτως εντάξει να έχετε ερωτήματα και να θέλετε να τα απαντήσετε μέσα από την εμπειρία σας,
-Μπορείτε να ωριμάσετε σιγά σιγά και μέχρι να ωριμάσετε έχετε το δικαίωμα να είστε ανώριμοι σε πολλούς τομείς,
-Μπορείτε να αγνοήσετε οποιονδήποτε σας θεωρεί μειονεκτικούς διότι είναι η σαύρα που του έχει δώσει τις απαντήσεις και όχι η εμπειρία της ύπαρξής του,
-Όλοι αυτοί που έχουν δώσει κάτι σε αυτό τον κόσμο (και υποθέτω και σε οποιονδήποτε άλλο) είναι ευαίσθητοι, δεν έχουν έτοιμες απαντήσεις αλλά έχουν ψάξει να τις βρουν. Και αν οι απαντήσεις τους έχουν προσφέρει πολλά, το ίδιο το δικαίωμα στο ψάξιμο έχει προσφέρει πολύ περισσότερα.

Με αγάπη

Αντώνης

This is especially for sensitives.
Do you think that everyone around you is a potential threat? Do you observe that they never offer you what you want or need in your life? Do you allow your thoughts and emotions to be dominated by the fear, the negativity, and ultimately the hate against people who never take care of you and they just want to abuse you?

Well let’s reverse the question. What are you offering?
What are the excellence and the greatness that you offer to the world, that you offer to the people around you (when you don’t defend yourself from what’s threatening you)?

Dear sensitive, the fear that you feel and the anger about the people who don’t respect you or who are against you, keeps you busy from fulfilling your life dreams and purpose.
Sensitive people have so much to offer.
The problem is that because of all these things that you have been told, especially as child, all these words that told you who you are and you believed them made you think that you are worthless.

If you were worthless you wouldn’t have been here.

All this “knowledge” about what and who you are needs to be removed. Start by not believing a word from what they tell you, they have told you and what you keep telling to yourself.
The options are:
1) You will remain a poor victim of other people all your life.
2) You will come out with all your strength and your value and lighten up the world.

They are both possible, which one do you prefer?

love

Antonis

Once upon a time there was a little girl
One day her parents realized that she started behaving strangely. She started acting like a baby, defending herself against everything and everyone, crying for no real reason, talking with baby voice, and also showing this impatience that little children show when they expect something exciting to happen.

This behavior was getting more intensive and more obvious as the days were passing so they decided to ask a psychologist.

The mother called the psychologist to arrange for a date, and he asked a few questions on the phone.
-Isn’t your girl very clever and very responsible usually?
Isn’t she generally very polite and very kind to the people?
Doesn’t she understand things easily when there is no pressure?
The mother said that all these things he asked are true, that’s why it’s difficult for them to understand her behavior.

-Well, he said, there is nothing wrong with your daughter; she is just getting ready for school.
The father was also listening next to his wife, so they were both confused.
-What do you mean?
-It’s just a survival thing; she has to play a role in school because she is afraid of being rejected. She is very clever and others may be afraid of her, so she plays the role of the less clever, in order to survive. The other children may feel insecure or threatened; although I believe that the usual problem is not so much the other children but the teacher.

They stayed silent for a moment, so the psychologist said:
-The only difference between someone who is very clever and someone who is less clever is that the one who is cleverer knows there is no difference.

A few more moments of silence and the mother asked,
-Yes but why does she act like this without reason even when she doesn’t have to get ready for school?
-She does have an older brother or sister, doesn’t she?

Trying to be safe in a relationship makes you often keep your partner in a distance. The imaginary, or not, fear of being hurt, abused, exploited or exposed, makes you live part of your life and not the whole thing.
The question is why did you start this relationship, to be safe or to live and enjoy it? And are you ever really safe?

If you really want to have a worthy relationship, and I guess that’s why you are reading this,  you need to be fully open to your partner and this way make him/her open him/herself. On the other hand if this is impossible then you have to go away.
It doesn’t worth staying in a relationship that is based on fear, not even for the sake of the children. If you force your children to be part of a dysfunctional relationship/family they will experience this as a normal way of living; this means they will repeat the same patterns in their own relationships. This way you make more people unhappy.

Wanting to be safe is something that keeps you from living.
Of course I don’t recommend that you go on extreme sports or stupid dangerous actions just to prove that you are alive!
What I recommend is to live your life fully, allow experiences and emotions, and grow with them. Grow together with your partner and/or your friends.

Since we are talking about highly sensitive people (HSP), a meaningful relationship is very important for a sensitive person. Many sensitives try to be safe, but this usually means depression. So being safe is not being happy.
I understand that this defense is automatic and based on past experiences, but if you still want to live your life, ask for help to get rid of these automations.

Love

Antonis

Με όλα αυτά τα τραγικά (και εγκληματικά) γεγονότα, μιλάω για τις φωτιές, έκανα έναν παραλληλισμό ανάμεσα στη φύση και τα εξαιρετικά ευαίσθητα άτομα και πόσο η συμπεριφορά μας απέναντι και στα δύο δείχνει την ωριμότητά μας σε όλα τα επίπεδα, από κοινωνική έως πνευματική, με όλες τις έννοιες της πνευματικότητας.

Η φύση είναι εξαιρετικά ευαίσθητη και ευάλωτη. Ένα σπίρτο σε μία ημέρα με άνεμο… βλέπετε τι μπορεί να κάνει. Και είναι τόσο εύκολο να το κάνει κανείς. Είναι πολύ πιο δύσκολο, έως αδύνατο, να προστατεύσεις τη φύση, το δάσος στη συγκεκριμένη περίπτωση, αν κάποιος κατά λάθος ή επίτηδες βάλει φωτιά.

Η ίδια εικόνα ακριβώς ισχύει και για τα ευαίσθητα άτομα. Και κατά επέκταση για όλες τις ευάλωτες κατηγορίες ανθρώπων. Είναι εύκολος στόχος, ο καθένας μπορεί να τα βάλει μαζί τους και ελάχιστοι μπορούν να τους προστατεύσουν.

Και η φύση αλλά και όλα αυτά τα άτομα βρίσκονται στην διάθεση όποιου έχει ανάγκη, είτε να κερδίσει χρήματα, είτε να εκδικηθεί είτε να νοιώσει καλά μέσα στην μετριότητά του με το να κακοποιεί όσους την απειλούν.

Μπορούμε να κατηγορούμε, να καταδικάζουμε, ακόμα και να εκδικούμαστε, συχνά χρησιμοποιώντας τα ίδια μέσα. Κάθε θύμα νομίζει ότι έχει το δικαίωμα να γίνει θύτης.

Το γεγονός είναι ότι ο άνθρωπος θα ωριμάσει όταν μπορέσει να σεβαστεί το ευάλωτο. Διότι ευάλωτο είναι ότι έχει ανοίξει τα πέταλά του, για να προσφέρει τα αρώματά του και εμείς μπορούμε να τα απολαύσουμε όταν αποφασίσουμε ότι θα το σεβαστούμε. Υπολογίζω ότι χρειαζόμαστε άλλα δύο χιλιάδες χρόνια ωρίμανσης.

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Most of us look at people and immediately stick a label on them. Beautiful, blond, fat, silly, strong, arrogant, dark… and we stick them without knowing anything about these people.

Of course I believe that the first impression is very important and if the intuition is offering the insight and the information then it is absolutely true.

But intuition doesn’t put labels. Labels are put by the ego.
Intuition does not judge, just gives information. Ego judges, trying to make others feel bad, in order to make us feel good (!!!).

Many think that they are smart by putting labels; there is a whole way of thinking where you are cool by just judging everybody around.
Well that’s not cool.
First of all you lose the real value of people around you and the chance to get something they can offer.
Then, since it’s easy to judge vulnerable people, you make them feel small and worthless while they have a lot to give. Seemingly vulnerable people, like highly sensitive (hsp) are in reality walking miracles, and they have so much to offer when this world finally accepts them.
Be advanced; get these offers first by exploring the people others reject. This is much cooler!

Train yourself to stop sticking labels. At all!
Then you will see a lot of value where there were labels before.

Love

Antonis

The biggest traps in business if you are highly sensitive (hsp) are the programs that run in the back of your head. Sensitive people develop these programs because they tend to believe everything when they are children, and they are very vulnerable to judgment and abuse.
On the other hand the greatest gifts of a sensitive person in business are, inspiration, intuition, love for adventure, exploring and creating new business opportunities.
As you can see there are many more gifts than traps, so why the failure is so possible to happen?
These little programs can cause one of the worse enemies to a sensitive business person, and this is low self-esteem.
A sensitive child is very likely to be judged or teased by parents, teachers or relatives, because when a sensitive child explores the world and life, develops ideas that are not being understood by everyone. Although these ideas can be the seeds of a future genius, they sound very silly to the people who have an established view of the world (you know, fear of life and the future). And of course they will not miss a chance to express this. You know this pattern, when someone doesn’t understand something tries to show that the one who does is stupid. A sensitive child is a very easy target.

The result is that this child will not feel safe getting out in life.
Of course will grow up, will develop a lot of abilities, all these gifts will come up and help the sensitive person to, not only survive but live an extraordinary life.
Until the mind programs appear and sabotages everything.
This sabotage can take many forms. Stopping an action that leads to success, creating the conditions for failure, fighting with partners or persons that are keys to success, bringing the ego in front and destroying everything that has been created up to that point, even start suffering from a depression for no obvious reason.

I heard this story about Richard, a very good and sincere businessman, who had all the knowledge and the strength to build up a business and make it successful.
But every time he reached the point of breaking through to real success something happened that brought major financial losses and even lead to bankruptcy.

He hired a business coach who helped him uncover the limiting programs that were working in his subconscious mind: his father had died from a heart attack at the peak of his business success. Richard was child then, and his subconscious mind had connected his father’s success with his death. So, in order to stay alive himself, he needed to sabotage his business. Once he could see these connections he could let go of this limiting program and move on.

So this is not the end of the world. Programs patterns and limiting beliefs have power only as long as you ignore them. The moment you look at them and recognize them they start dissolving. And in the case of Richard a coach was the perfect help to help him see these little problems that caused a lot of damage.

The most important is that you cannot see these programs with bare eye. You can see only the results in your business and your life, and then it’s usually too late.
You need tools in order to see them in time, and coaching is the best tool.

love

Antonis

There are two ways to deal with your sensitivity. The one is to see it as a gift, to develop it and learn how to use it for living; the other is to use it as an excuse for hiding.

I see many people legalizing procrastination using sensitivity as an excuse.
To make things clear, my job is to help people who want to move forward.
I’m not working on your “problems”, that means I coach you WHILE YOU ARE LIVING and not by stopping life to talk about it.
I’m not going to legalize your whining I will support you to drop it.
I’m not going to accept that you are a victim, even if you have all the proofs in the world that you are.
I’m not going to help you feel good about your suffering. No way! 

In 1996 Elaine Aron created the term “Highly Sensitive Person” or HSP to describe and study a great part of the population (and also of higher animals) that has a different way to deal with stimuli, information, thoughts and emotions. This term is neither metaphysical nor spiritual, is very practical and very scientific and has to do with psychology.
Of course for many people this was a connection to spiritual terms, like “light worker”, “indigo” and “crystal”, and this makes sense because all the people who are considered to be able to understand and receive delicate vibrations can only be highly sensitive. If you agree or not with those terms is another story, it’s rather your relationship with spirituality.
The only thing I disagree is the characterization of some people as “special” because being special is being limited. Someone who is special must always take care of the image and the concept which represents, and for someone who has already a lot of information coming through this fine tuned body and mind it’s a heavy weight.
Special is a term that I don’t agree, in every level. Many people consider themselves as special just because they have money, beauty, high IQ, luck, abilities for one or the other thing, you know, good drivers, good lovers, good cooks etc. But if you try to be special using one thing as excuse you may appear as ordinary or even less than that in other fields.
The worse thing, especially for highly sensitive children, is when the parents try to show them, and everyone else, how special they are. I see parents very proud about their child being smart, very good pupil, indigo or crystal, strong or beautiful. This is the best way to burn your child out.
I have millions of examples and also personal experience on this.
Being special can attract admiration but can also create isolation and envy. Too much weight for a child, especially a sensitive child.

Treat everyone as ordinary and let them decide what to do with their gifts themselves. Consider the “special” gifts as something natural and not as something metaphysical. Let them enjoy the benefits of having abilities and share them with everyone. Everyone has an extra ability.
Ask for help or advice.

Everyone’s body and everything around it is limited by default, even if it’s “special”.
Everyone’s spirit is perfect and unlimited anyway.

There are many reasons for a sensitive person (hsp) to feel worthless, sometimes even that there is no reason or no right to exist. Most of these reasons have their roots in childhood.
I wrote many articles about the programming of the mind during childhood, and the results of it, all the phrases, judgments, rejections and accusations that create the conditions for low performance, fear of life, worthlessness or depression, especially to sensitive people.
The fact is that all these problems, no matter how deep they seem to be and how many difficulties they create, are reversible. All these troubles are undoable.
If these thoughts and emotions come to you often, you have to decide if you really want to shift. Not the decision to find out whose fault it is, this is something that you have already, and it just keeps you where you are. Either it’s the real person who “did this to you” or anyone else you decided that you are their victim.
The decision is to get out, to rediscover your worthiness and raise your self-esteem and your self-appreciation no matter what. I can help you on this, but YOU have to decide and YOU have to work. I can be only the co-driver.

Love

Antonis